I am writing this blog post in inspiration of the fact that I am having one of ‘those days’ right now. You know the days I’m talking about. The days where you just don’t want to get out of bed and when you do you wish you hadn’t. The days where you go to the fridge to make yourself a full english breakfast and realise the bacon went off yesterday. The days where no matter how many concealers you use to try and hide that gigantic spot, they’re not going to work. The days where every time you look in the mirror you feel repulsed by yourself more and more and wished you look like all those stunning models on Instagram. The days where you try absolutely everything to pick yourself up and detox your mind and nothing works.
Today I am not ‘okay’. But when my friends ask me how I am I will tell them that I am. Not to hide the fact that I’m not in the happiest of moods but because I know that this will pass. I know this feeling is only temporary and that tomorrow I will, more than likely, wake up in a better mood. It’s only human to feel down about ourselves sometimes and want to curl up under a rock.
However, the point I wanted to talk more so about is the fact that bizarrely we tend to feel guilty for having a bad day, whether it’s for a reason or not. There’s the saying of ‘Oh it could be worse’, and honestly that couldn’t be a more pointless and unhelpful thing to say or think for a person who’s not feeling their best.
Yes someone will always have it worse than you, and yes there is someone who has it the absolute worst but that does not mean the upset you feel isn’t valid. At the end of the day we all have our own pain and struggles in life, bad things happen to everyone, you can’t help the social hierarchy you were born into, therefore why should you make yourself feel guilty over not feeling your best? We all live in different circumstances that are unique to us all but at the end of the day if you feel upset that you didn’t get the grade you wanted in an exam you have every right to feel that way, instead of disregarding it by saying ‘it could be worse’.
I feel like social media has a way of indirectly making people feel like they can’t show that they are having a bad day in fear that people will say things like ‘at least you have a roof over your head’ and things like that. Social media can guilt people into feeling like they can’t feel a certain way because to everyone else their life is ‘perfect’ and they should feel grateful for what they have.
I basically just want to say that if you are left feeling like you can’t tell someone how you feel or why your upset, in fear that they will think your being petty in spite of the fact that it could be worse then don’t. Don’t feel like that. Even if you’ve been in a car crash and suffered trauma yet you were the least injured, you still have the right to feel the way you do without the thought of ‘it could be worse’ ever crossing your mind.
Some people might read this and be like ‘well duh’. But I’ve seen so many people bottle up the way they feel because, although they feel like their whole world is crashing down, other people might see it as them being petty and insensitive to the world around them. You’re not being petty, you’re being human.
I hope this post helps you in some way and that you enjoyed reading it,
thank you as always,