How To Train Your Boyfriend To Take Your Photos


Photography is probably one of my absolute favourite hobbies. I love capturing images of people, animals, landscapes, FOOD (especially food) and many other things. However, sometimes it’s nice to be on the other side of the lens. I recently did a tweet (@rhaea_) saying how I’m the kind of person that will take candid pictures of my friends without being asked to for the ultimate instagram pic, just because that’s what I enjoy doing, but I’ve always kind of wanted it the other way around as well.


Enter Boyfriend.


Despite the fact that Harry and I have been together for quite a while now, it was only in April that I actually asked him to take some photos of me for my blog and Instagram. In the beginning, he wasn’t great I’m not going to lie, he had barely held a camera before, let alone used one so of course he wasn’t going to be a professional! However, over the course of a few weeks I gradually explained to him some of the features of my Olympus Pen E-Pl8 and figured out some tricks that would help him capture the image I had envisioned in my head.

Here are my top tips for ‘How To Train Your Boyfriend: Personal Photographer Edition‘: 


No Pressure

You know previously I said that in the beginning, my boyfriend wasn’t great at capturing the image I wanted of me? Bless him. I never told him that. I encouraged him by making at least one image work from the many he’d taken and posted it on Instagram and said that I wouldn’t have posted if I thought it was rubbish, which is true. Harry was never particularly keen to take my picture in the beginning and I never forced him to or complained when he hadn’t gotten exactly what I wanted, boys easily get frustrated with things if they can’t do them right first time, as we all know, so make sure that in the very beginning you give loads of encouragement and say you love the pictures even if they aren’t what you were expecting!


Use Him To Demonstrate What You Want

This is easily the best way to get anyone to take an image of you that you want, whether it’s a friend, a parent, a taxi driver or a complete stranger! Here, I’ll show you what I mean…

Demonstrating the image that I want using boyf as a mannequin


Step 1: Position said boyfriend (or friend, family member etc) in desired location and set exposure, aperture, select lens and all other camera settings to your preference.


Step 2: Show boyfriend the image of him you have just taken so that all he has to do is match the same frame of the image essentially but with you in it instead of him.


Step 3: Edit and post replicated picture onto Instagram, you may want to credit your boyfriend here for extra girlfriend points


The Final Image

This is probably the most successful way to get exactly the picture that you want, but it is also the most time consuming if you want a full on photoshoot and potentially frustrating for your boyfriend, especially if they aren’t keen on having their picture taken! This brings me onto my next tip…


Get Him To Replicate The Frame, Not The Image

This is similar to the last tip but without using him as a demo. To capture this image, I told Harry that all he had to do was get the frame right, so by having the leaves in the top left corner and then me on the platform at the bottom. Sometimes it’s easier for people who aren’t experienced in photography to understand the image you have in your head this way as it’s more mathematical.

Desired frame I took for him to then replicate with me in the picture

The Final Image

And moving onto my final tip…


Trust Him and Let Him Have a Go Himself

For your boyfriend to truly begin to love taking photos, not only of you but of other things, you need to stop telling him what to do and let his imagination have a go. The best place to do this is somewhere with a relatively blank canvas, i.e. not a busy background like the image above. I personally find beaches a great place for this! The photos shown below are the pinnacle moment when Harry said he really enjoyed taking my pictures, he even gave me some creative direction as to where to look and what to do. I still did all the settings myself as i’m super picky but this is the point I have gotten him to now, where I don’t have to use him as a model to get the image that I want. I can trust the fact that I’ve taught him some what about cameras now and that he can get the shot I have imagined with me barely having to describe it to him. He’s come a hell of a long way in a very short amount of time and I’m very grateful to have him by my side, Boyfriend-cross-Photographer or just boyfriend! I was really impressed at the photos he took below and it just shows that a little patience and encouragement can go a very long way! These images are both the final image after editing.


Thank you so much for reading, I really hoped this post has helped you think of ways in how to get that #instaperfect pic from a photoshoot with your boyfriend, friend, family member etc! I promise that if you follow these steps and have patience with your choice of photographer protege they will get the hang of it! If Harry can then so can pretty much anyone (I mean this in the nicest way possible, sorry Harry ily)!!!

All photos were taken on the Olympus e-pl8 and a variety of lenses which you can shop here!

If you don’t have a boyfriend/friend/family member for your photography needs then my ‘ex-boyfriend’, ‘tripod’, can be shopped on amazon and pretty much anywhere, and bonus – he never complains! (lol..)

I’d love to know who takes your pics and whether you have some even better tips for teaching your significant other or whoever it is how to get the shot you want – comment below for a chat!

thank you again,

Rhaea x


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  1. June 26, 2017 / 7:14 pm

    I loved this post, such a good idea! And so useful too haha! My boyfriend loves taking photos in general, and I just get in them and he says 'I'm guessing you wanted me to take an off guard photo' and there I have a random picture of myself 😬🙌🏻

  2. June 26, 2017 / 8:33 pm

    Pahaha that totally works haha!

  3. June 27, 2017 / 7:43 pm

    I can totally relate to this! My boyfriend is great at filming (amazing for lookbooks hehe!) but photography isn't his strong point so I can totally relate to this! Love all the images he's obviously got pretty good ���� Great post lovely xx

  4. July 28, 2017 / 10:39 am

    my bf used to be so bad at taking my photos. Turning the camera frame into a diamond shape and taking the shot that way, very year 9. Now he's so much better, he had to do a photo shoot for his band and i think he gets compositions now and actually takes are really great photo.

    Love the post and will be mentioning to him some of your tips to turn him into a level 10 photographer.


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